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Friday, February 26, 2016

Thoughts on Psalm 34--Can we be nice already?

Rabbi Philip Weintraub
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The last few weeks in my congregation have been filled with the hospice care, deaths, funerals, and mourning care of beloved congregants. As such, this column is in a different format.

A Jewish funeral includes the recitation of many psalms.  One that is frequently included is a selection from Psalm 34, from the New Jewish Publication Society translation, verses 13-15
“13Who is the man who is eager for life, who desires years of good fortune?
14 Guard your tongue from evil, your lips from deceitful speech.
15 Shun evil and do good, seek amity (peace/friendly relationships) and pursue it.”

As a member of the clergy, my work is spent helping people in liminal times, at those moments when we are neither here nor there, neither past nor future, but on the threshold.  Births, adolescence, weddings, divorces, aging, funerals are all part of my daily life.  Yet the business of a congregation also requires us to be in the present--which can create conflict over funding priorities, programs, maintenance, etc.

Amidst those very present conversations, I come back to this text again and again.  What does it mean to be a good person? How can we improve our relations to others?  It is really very simple--the golden rule, or according to Rabbi Hillel more than two thousand years ago “What is hateful to you, do not do to your fellow: this is the whole Torah; the rest is the explanation; go and learn.”  One place to learn that rule is from Psalm 34--in the way we speak to one another.

Many books have been written about proper speech, about not only avoiding gossip and lies, but also thinking how we encourage lies and gossip.  If I know that my best friend hates Trump or Clinton, sharing their accomplishments in front of them may open up a torrent of vile speech.  I am goading them into poor behavior.  That is not just unbecoming of them, it is also unbecoming of me.  I am complicit in their evil speech.

Looking around this city and this country, this election has brought for much vitriol, much anger, much evil speech.  Candidates have spoken blatant lies, hateful words and even encouraged violence against those who disagree with them.  Supporters have beaten up those they disagree with.

What can we do to lower the temperature?  We are and should be passionate about the details and policies and politics of our candidates.  We all want a country where the American Dream is alive and well, where everyone has a shot at a better life.  Most of us would like affordable access to medicine when we need it, shelter at night, enough food to eat, roads to drive on, safe bridges, education for our children and water free from lead or toxic chemicals.  People have different ideas about how large or small government needs to be to provide essential services. That is amazing.  We should not all agree on the methods, yet we should agree on respect.

Even if I disagree with everything that you say or believe in, I pray I can do it nicely.  Rather than letting my blood boil when someone shares racist tripe, I try to remember that they, too, are created in the image of the Holy One and deserve my love and respect.  

Returning to the Psalm, one way we can find civility again.  One way we can seek peace and friendly relationships is simply to speak kindly to one another.  This does not mean ignoring honesty.  We must find a way to be truthful AND kind.  We must find a way to bring love to our criticisms.  Only then can we truly work together to accomplish our shared goals.  Mourning the loss of my members, I am reminded of the importance of love for one another.  We are all in this together--no matter our backgrounds, our faiths or lack there of, our origin stories, our personal histories, or our politics!

I wish you all a week of peace!

Wednesday, September 16, 2015

Rosh Hashanah day 2--Israel-our hope every day

Rabbi Philip Weintraub
Congregation Agudas Israel
September 15, 2015
Rosh Hashanah Day 2

A few weeks ago Rebecca and I celebrated our anniversary at Madison Square Garden with Billy Joel.  Ok, so it wasn’t just us, way up in the nosebleeds, but tens of thousands of his screaming fans attending this concert.  He played the crowd well, brought in Yitzhak Pearlman to play for a couple of songs, to standing ovations and raucous cheers.  Yet what brought the room to the loudest applause, what brought most people to their feet was
Some folks like to get away
Take a holiday from the neighborhood
Hop a flight to Miami Beach
Or to Hollywood
But I'm talking a Greyhound
On the Hudson River Line
I'm in a New York state of mind
Wherever they came from, wherever they were going home that night, standing with Billy Joel, they were New Yorkers.  Many of you know my story, that I was born in New York, yet grew up outside Atlanta, went to Brandeis, JTS in NYC and now my home is with you all.  If I did my math correctly, this year officially pushes me over the top, I have now lived in New York more than any other state.  Yet, even as I look out over the Hudson River, there are other songs in my heart and they aren’t The Devil Went Down to Georgia or Midnight Train to Georgia. I’m not even talking about “leaving my home in Georgia heading for the Hudson Bay”. No, the songs in my heart are Yerushalayim Shel Zahav, Al Kol Eileh, Bashanah Haba’ah, songs in the back of the USY bentcher, B’kol Echad; they are songs of Israel.  They are songs longing for peace, yet unafraid to demand Jewish sovereignty,  filled with biblical allusions and verses.  For most Jews, their first steps in Israel are strangely familiar.  For many, there is an immediate connection to the land, to the people, to the very soil itself.  Something in the air is just different in Israel, a little bit holier.

There is an old joke:
The Chief Rabbi of Israel and the Pope are in a meeting in Rome. The Rabbi notices an unusually fancy phone on a side table in the Pope's private chambers.
"What is that phone for?" he asks the pontiff.
"It's my direct line to the Lord!"
The Rabbi is skeptical, and the Pope notices. The Holy Father insists that the Rabbi try it out, and, indeed, he is connected to the Lord.  The Rabbi holds a lengthy discussion with him.
After hanging up the Rabbi says. "Thank you very much. This is great! But listen, I want to pay for my phone charges."
The Pope, of course refuses, but the Rabbi is steadfast and finally, the pontiff gives in. He checks the counter on the phone and says:
"All right! The charges were 100,000 Lira." ($50)
The Chief Rabbi gladly hands over a packet of bills. A few months later, the Pope is in Jerusalem on an official visit. In the Chief Rabbi's chambers he sees a phone identical to his and learns it also is a direct line to the Lord. The Pope remembers he has an urgent matter that requires divine consultation and asks if he can use the Rabbi's phone.
The Rabbi gladly agrees, hands him the phone, and the Pope chats away. After hanging up, the Pope offers to pay for the phone charges.
The Rabbi looks on the phone counter and says: "1 Shekel 50" ($.25)
The Pope looks surprised: "Why so cheap!?!"
The Rabbi smiles: "Local call."

Wandering in the streets of Jerusalem, it really feels like God is a little bit closer, which could explain why everyone seems a little bit crazier, and that is not even speaking of Jerusalem syndrome, when people imagine themselves to be prophets!  In my time in Jerusalem, I discovered that whenever I was stressed I would start walking and end up at the Kotel, the Western Wall. Every time I am in Israel it is harder to return, yet I know that I belong here, with my family, in America.  I am just lucky to have more than one home AND YOU DO, TOO.

Israel.

Israel is the crossroads of the world, the heart of it according to our tradition and medieval mapmakers.  It has never been an easy place to live.  Conquered and reconquered, it has always been a home to Jews, although not always comfortably (Depending on who was in charge).  Israel is a country with multiple microclimates, from skiing on Mt. Hermon to the deserts in the south.  It has taken enormous ingenuity to produce everything from Jaffa oranges to pharmaceuticals to the essential silicon chips in virtually every cell phones.  To truly boycott Israel, one would have to do without numerous medicines, and virtually all modern technology!

I stand before you on this second day of Rosh Hashanah, not to invite you to come to Israel with me in May, not to regale you with the beauty of the country, not to remind you of the miracle of its rebirth, or its antiquity, or its imperfect balance of secularism and religion (or its successes and failures in peace and war with its neighbors and citizens).  I am not standing here merely to inspire you to join me in May, to see her citizens, her miracles, or even to celebrate Rosh Chodesh, the new month with Women of the Wall, or Israeli Memorial Day and Independence Days, which are an experience like no other.  (Ok, I do tell you those things because I would LOVE to have you join me in Israel.)

The real reason that, I stand here today to share with you my thoughts about the very fabric of the universe and our place in it.  Over the next ten days and beyond, we will spend a significant amount of time together.  Yesterday, Shabbat, Yom Kippur, Sukkot and Simchat Torah are all sacred times.  We come together with deep intentions.  We choose our clothing, our hair, our kippah, our tallit, maybe even wear a white kittel to announce to ourselves and those around us that this is a time for prayer and reflection.  On these days we can sustain our attention, connect to the prayers (or the wonderful readings in the margins of our prayerbook), but what about all of the other days?

How do we sustain the prayerfulness of these days?  How do we hang onto the holiness of these days?  How do we bring the sanctity, the love, the joy, the hope, the freedom and even the awe to every other day of the year?  In our own lives, I believe that every single moment is an opportunity for us.  Every single moment.  Not just when we stand here together, but also when our toddler is having a temper tantrum, when we are talking to our loved ones, when we argue with customer disservice, or when we see the sun set over our beautiful Hudson River.  Love of Israel, of our Jewish homeland, whether yearning to return or yearning to go for the first time, is one way to connect to our heritage, to God and to one another, not just today, but every day.

One Yom Kippur, I spoke of the attempts of Temple Emmanuel in Newton to connect its community to all aspects of Jewish life.  Using the metaphor of gates, they offered an access point to our holy traditions. Throughout the building, on the website, on every page of their literature was a reference to the “Seven Gates:”Torah, Prayer, Israel, Shabbat, Redeeming the World, Building Community, and Teaching Jewish Values.” Recognizing that we are all individuals, that we all connected to God, Torah and Israel differently, they have codified and sanctified their values for all to see.  

In our own community, these same values shape all that we do.  I won’t repeat that sermon, but I do want to return our thoughts to Israel.  Israel is many things to our people.  It is the land promised to Abraham.  It is the place where our ancestors walked, the homeland for thousands of years.  Yet for generations of Jews, it was inaccessible.  It was the memory of the destruction of the Temple, forced exile, oppression, the loss of sovereignty.  In 1867, Mark Twain wrote of Israel:
“….. A desolate country whose soil is rich enough, but is given over wholly to weeds… a silent mournful expanse…. a desolation…. we never saw a human being on the whole route…. hardly a tree or shrub anywhere. Even the olive tree and the cactus, those fast friends of a worthless soil, had almost deserted the country.”
Yet even if it was mostly desolate, for generation upon generation, we yearned to return, to escape the galut, the exile and come home.  We wanted to wander no more, to feel the rootedness the rest of the world had but we did not.  In the Middle Ages, outside of Pilgrimages or traders (like many Jews), most people lived and worked in the places of their birth.  Looking at Jewish history of the time, we were welcomed and then expelled from virtually every country in existence!

Our daily liturgy is filled with its fervent prayer for the restoration of Israel and Jerusalem, modernity brought Zionism, which offered a modern hope for a renewed State of Israel, HATIKVAH, our hope.  With diplomacy, White Papers, and facts on the ground, waves of Aliyah, brought more and more Jews back to the land (and away from European and Russian Pogroms (and eventually the Shoah)).  Establishing farms, kibbutzim, factories and other endeavors, with some spectacular failures, our brothers and sisters managed to do the impossible,to reestablish a long dormant state.  To truly make it happen they needed the UN and a military.  

For decades, Israel’s creation has been a miracle and uniter of (most of) the Jewish people.  Across denominational (and political) lines (eventually), it reminded us of our own possibilities.  If Israel could be reestablished after almost two thousand years, what else could be we accomplish?  With American progress seemingly unstoppable the fifties, sixties and seventies, were times of optimism for American Jewry and Israel. Shuls were built in every new suburb and Conservative Judaism seemed prepared to triumph over all competitors.

Yet times have changed.  For many of our brethren, Israel remains an inspiration.  While still a tiny minority in the region, a matchbox on the football field of Middle Eastern land, its military no longer seems like a David to the Arabs’ Goliath.  In today’s world, Israel is not always a unifying beacon of hope for the Jewish people.  The generation in school today has no memory of the founding of the state of Israel, of Sinai campaigns or the Six Day War.  Maybe they remember the challenges of Lebanon, the Oslo accords, or the intifadas.  Some see oppression and occupation, rather than the only democracy in the Middle East.  Our brothers and sisters might want to look to Israel’s neighbors.  Syria, Iraq, Lebanon barely exist independently.  Iran’s nuclear designs paralyzed its economy for years, but it still managed to finance terror through Hezbollah and Hamas.  Jordan, Egypt, the Gulf States, Saudi Arabia are all currently semi-stable, but no one can predict if that will last.  Israel may not be perfect, but thinking about Noah who was a tzadik bdorotav, righteous in his generation, we might say Israel is tzadikah b’makomah, righteous for its place.

As Conservative Jews, we are angered that women still cannot pray freely at the Kotel, that it is possibly illegal for me to officiate at a wedding in Israel.  Marriage, divorce and even funerals are legally under the exclusive control of the rabbanut, the official Orthodox rabbis of the state.  Israel is NOT perfect.  We have to fight to get things done, but the same is true here at home.  Just like our own country, it could treat those who are not citizens (and even those who are) with more respect and love.  Prime Minister Netanyahu could use a reminder of one of our central verses of Torah, (Deut 10:19)
יט  וַאֲהַבְתֶּם, אֶת-הַגֵּר:  כִּי-גֵרִים הֱיִיתֶם, בְּאֶרֶץ מִצְרָיִם.
19 Love ye therefore the stranger; for ye were strangers in the land of Egypt.
And yet, he must preside over a pretty chaotic security situation!

I love America.  It is my home.  It is a beautiful country that has more diversity of people and ideas than almost anywhere in the world.  Our wonderful, progressive nation is also plagued by gun violence, racism, classism, inequality, apathy and few who desire to thoughtfully discuss these issues.  We would rather speak AT one another than WITH one another.  Do we throw up our hands and say, America is evil or wrong or terrible because it is not perfect?  No, we demand better of our elected officials.  Eventually, we throw the “bums” out and elect people who share our values.  The same must be true for Israel.  We must work for positive change, while recognizing the security, religious and political concerns of the region.

Amidst all of this tsuris we forget two vital facts
  1. Israel will always be our home.
  2. Israel is not just another country.

At the end of the day, we need Israel.  If our history has taught us anything, it is that we need a place that will welcome us if the world changes again.  The fact of Israel’s existence protects us in the world.  Israel sees itself as the protector of the Jewish community throughout the world.  Israel also needs us.  It needs us to protest when our rabbis are mistreated, our women are mistreated, and our friends and neighbors are mistreated.  It requires from us a strong voice pushing for Israel to be at its best--while being aware that our words matter.

Israel is not just another country.  As the self-declared representative of the Jewish people, which we don’t always accept, it is held to standards no other nation could meet.  Its conduct in peace and in war are scrutinized like no other.  Ancient hatreds find themselves exposed in the fight against Israel.  The UN which helped found it has written scores more resolutions for supposed violations of human rights than it has against Syria, Libya, China, North Korea, Iran, Iraq, Afghanistan.  American and British generals have noted that Israel does more to prevent civilian casualties than any other nation, yet is publicly reviled for its military conduct.  Let me be clear, Israel could do much more to be a good steward for all its citizens, Jewish, Muslim, Christian, Druze. Racism and religious extremism must be fought within all its populations and policies and procedures should not be biased, yet it is the only country in the region that all can live and worship basically freely.  When the issue of Palestinian refugees is raised, we cannot forget the 800,000 Jews who were kicked out of their former homes in Iraq, Afghanistan, Egypt, Jordan, Iran, and beyond after the establishment of the state of Israel.  

I share all this with you this morning, because I want you to take more ownership of Israel.  That means understanding your history.  Take a class with me, read your Bible, keep up with current events.  It means standing up and demanding action from Israel and from America.  Protect Israel out of love.  Visit Israel with me or on your own.  Volunteer or donate with the Masorti movement, with Mercaz Olami to help push Israel to be a more democratic and egalitarian place, a real home for all Jews.  Criticize it to make it better--but know your audience.  Don’t give fodder to the anti-Semites.

Psalm 137 1-6

א  עַל נַהֲרוֹת, בָּבֶל--שָׁם יָשַׁבְנוּ, גַּם-בָּכִינוּ:    בְּזָכְרֵנוּ, אֶת-צִיּוֹן.
1 By the rivers of Babylon, there we sat down, yea, we wept, when we remembered Zion.
ב  עַל-עֲרָבִים בְּתוֹכָהּ--    תָּלִינוּ, כִּנֹּרוֹתֵינוּ.
2 Upon the willows in the midst thereof we hanged up our harps.
ג  כִּי שָׁם שְׁאֵלוּנוּ שׁוֹבֵינוּ, דִּבְרֵי-שִׁיר--    וְתוֹלָלֵינוּ שִׂמְחָה:
שִׁירוּ לָנוּ,    מִשִּׁיר צִיּוֹן.
3 For there they that led us captive asked of us words of song, and our tormentors asked of us mirth:{N}
'Sing us one of the songs of Zion.'
ד  אֵיךְ--נָשִׁיר אֶת-שִׁיר-ה":    עַל, אַדְמַת נֵכָר.
4 How shall we sing the LORD'S song in a foreign land?
ה  אִם-אֶשְׁכָּחֵךְ יְרוּשָׁלִָם--    תִּשְׁכַּח יְמִינִי.
5 If I forget thee, O Jerusalem, let my right hand forget her cunning.
ו  תִּדְבַּק-לְשׁוֹנִי, לְחִכִּי--    אִם-לֹא אֶזְכְּרֵכִי:
אִם-לֹא אַעֲלֶה, אֶת-יְרוּשָׁלִַם--    עַל, רֹאשׁ שִׂמְחָתִי.
6 Let my tongue cleave to the roof of my mouth, if I remember thee not; {N}
if I set not Jerusalem above my chiefest joy.

In our days together, may we continue to discover ways of connecting to God, to Torah, to Israel and to our entire Jewish community.  May the words of our mouths and the meditations of our heart help us to discover the strivings, the yearning within us all.  May we turn those yearnings into action.   אִם-אֶשְׁכָּחֵךְ יְרוּשָׁלִָם--    תִּשְׁכַּח יְמִינִי If we do not remember Jerusalem, we are incomplete.  Unlike the psalmist, we CAN sing praises of Israel outside the land.  We can work to make the country better.  We can use our yearning to re-establish the homeland we all deserve.  We can visit and advocate.  In doing so, we will bring holiness into our lives every day of the year.

Gratitude is powerful. Finding the sacred in every day.

Rabbi Philip Weintraub
Congregation Agudas Israel
September 14, 2015


RH Day 1: Putting the extraordinary in the ordinary in Prayer


There is an old Israeli joke about a rabbi who arrives in heaven.  He is shown to his dwelling and learns what ones does and how one gets around.  After a few days of wandering, he finds a tremendous mansion, which seems even more fantastic after seeing his own humble dwellings.  After a few more days, he asks around and discovers an Egged bus driver (or Jerusalem taxi driver) is the resident of the most luxurious accommodations.  This rabbi gets rather frustrated and takes his concerns to the top.  He asks God, what is going on?  I spent my life serving you and teaching your people.  God responds quite simply. “When you taught, people slept.  When he drove, people prayed!”
 
What does your average day look like?  You get up, take care of your daily needs, eat, shower, get moving.  You go to work, to school, to the stores, run errands, do laundry.  Even retired we find ourselves in third or fourth careers, running, running, running.  As Americans, we are busier and more productive than ever, but are we happier?  Are we more fulfilled?  Do we find satisfaction in our busy, busy lives?  Children are rushed to activity after activity in order to be prepared for middle school, high school, college.  We live in a world of burned out elementary school children!  Too much homework, always on work phones for adults--with some companies even tracking their employees activities outside of work.  How much time of your day is spent in prayer or reflection, in gratitude?  Do you think you have time for that?


Every single day we are searching for more on our devices.  We click through and search for more.  We do not sleep because of the glow of the screens.  More news.  More life. More connection.  We live in a world where our single friends can scroll through endless possibilites on phone apps, yet struggle to find a real relationship.  So many choices leave them (and us) wondering if the best is yet to come, dismissing what we have! Looking at the facebook posts of friends and colleagues, 95% of what we see is the best, the most beautiful, the most wonderful.  We can feel horribly inferior, until we consider what WE post.  Do we share (or should we) our tsurris or just our best?  Do our facebook friends think we are also living perfect lives?


What would it look like if we just got off the technological treadmill?  What if we took a breath and imagined a different type of life?


Guess what you are doing right now?!  Today is Monday.  You have stepped out of your normal paradigm.  You are in a different space, thinking different thoughts.  I am not speaking just to pat you on the back, but to ask how you can bring this paradigm into your daily life.  Today, the first day of Rosh Hashanah, is about forgiveness and judgement, but it is also about new opportunities.  It is about looking at the world differently.  We sound the shofar.  Psalm 89:16 reminds us:


16 Fortunate is the people that know the blasting of the shofar; O Lord, may they walk in the light of Your countenance.
טז אַשְׁרֵי הָעָם יֹדְעֵי תְרוּעָה הֹ" בְּאוֹר פָּנֶיךָ יְהַלֵּכוּן:
Today I encourage you to feel fortunate.  Let the blast of the shofar awaken us.  Let us walk in the light of the Holy One and discover our blessings.  Looking around the world, we know that we are blessed to live here now.  We have major problems in this country, income inequality, far too much gun violence, yet right here, right now we are safer here than almost anywhere in the world at ANY time in history.  Our ancestors could not have imagined a world where we could have influence, safety, health, success and remain minorities.  World history is filled with the idea that for a people to be successful they have to dominate the society around them.  Jews have demonstrated that this is simply not the case.  We can be a tiny percentage of the world’s population and still accomplish incredible things, still live lives of meaning and dignity.


I invite you to look around this room with a spirit of awe and gratitude.  See the people that sit here with you.  See the friends that make this all possible.  Look at the book in front of you.  Within it are three thousand years of yearning.  These prayers are the original facebook, the original twitter, the original party line. On the sides of the book we have the commentaries, the dreams, the visions, the poetry, that helps us connect to those dreams, those prayers, those wishes.  Security. Peace. Love. Sustenance.  Housing. Family.  These dreams do not change, whether we live today or a thousand years before or after.


As Jews, we have a deep well, a reservoir of hope, of yearning, of connection.  We have traditions that tie us to our roots.  We are grafted to our sources of connection, to the Holy One, to God.  We create and renew this connection through prayer and thanks.  Looking at the liturgy here, the prayers we recite, we see the dreams that have not changed in millenia.  Every year there are new fads that try to connect people to that which is missing in their life, to help them find meaning.  Some of these fads--yoga and meditation--aren’t fads at all, but ancient wisdom from other traditions.  Other diets and workout routines are more temporal.  The search for thankfulness and gratitude is found throughout the world, for a very simply reason.  We are happier, more fulfilled, more joyful when we give thanks, when we see the good in each other and the world.


As Jews, we have a rubric, a template for giving thanks in so many ways.  From the prayers for the first flowers of spring, to those asking for healing, to daily prayers of waking up and going to bed, of pausing during the day to recognize our own humanity.  Traditionally we pray both before AND after we eat.  On September 22, 2018 I’ll study the 43rd page of Menachot, a tractate of Talmud discussing our ancient sacrifices in the Jerusalem Temple.  Yet, on that page is a demand from Rabbi Meir which I am quite familiar with: “
חייב אדם לברך מאה ברכות בכל יום, שנאמר: (דברים י') ועתה ישראל מה ה' אלקיך שואל מעמך. רב חייא בריה דרב אויא בשבתא וביומי טבי טרח וממלי להו באיספרמקי ומגדי.
It was taught: R. Meir used to say, A man is bound to say one hundred blessings daily, (skiP:)as it is written, And now, Israel, what doth the Lord thy God require of thee? On Sabbaths and on Festivals R. Hiyya the son of R. Awia endeavoured to make up this number by the use of spices and delicacies.


What would it look like to say one hundred blessings a day?  How would that even work?  Traditional Jews have it easy!  There are a dozen blessings when one wakes or enters the shul, nineteen thrice a day in the Amidah, three or four around the shema in the morning and at night, and blessings before and after meals--you are done!  Shabbat and festivals are more challenging with the Amidah having fewer blessings, yet celebratory meals and Shabbat walks enjoying our beautiful Hudson Valley can easily add enough scents and tastes to add up to the official count.  At the same time, I think we can gain much from Rabbi Meir even if we don’t literally count our daily blessings.  Some social scientists claim we are most productive if we work twenty minutes take a few minutes break and then return to our focus--like interval training for the mind.  What if we used that time for gratitude, to recognize the Creator of the Universe, to recognize the Divinity in ourselves, and in one another.  Would we be more focused (and generous) to one another in a meeting if we remembered the holiness within us all, if we saw how interconnected we all are?  
ד  שְׁמַע, יִשְׂרָאֵל:  ה" אֱ-לֹהֵינוּ, ה" אֶחָד.
4 Hear, O Israel: the LORD our God, the LORD is one.
Echad, one, is translated in many different ways.  Echad--alone, singular, unlike anything else.  Yet kabbalistically, mystically, one might imagine a different sort of one-ness.  What if we saw all the world as God or at least Godly?  Would we look at Syrian refugees the same way?  How would we treat immigrants to this country?  Or even the most disliked group of people on this planet--political candidates! What would the WORLD look like if we acted with more love?


So the big question is if we have the secret to happiness, why don’t we use it?
I shouldn’t need to stand here and tell you that you will be undoubtedly happier if you are nice to people, if you give thanks to God for all that you have, if you appreciate your family, friends and the ones you love?  And yet, I must stand here and say exactly that!  


I have known my wife for nine years.  She knows me very well.  In the weeks leading up to the holidays, like many rabbis, I can get a little stressed and cranky.  I want everything to be just right.  I want you to walk away impressed with your community, closer to God, inspired to live more meaningful lives.  And I want you to do that without looking at your apple watches during my sermon.  In short, I want everything just right.  Yet at this time of year, even while writing about gratitude, I can find myself short-tempered!  In focusing on making sure every detail is right for you, I can forget the bigger picture, even the point of my sermons this week.  In coming together, I want us to learn how to live even when we are not gathered in these numbers in this room.  I want to inspire you to find the holiness that is in each day, whether or not I can get you to come back and spend time with me on a weekly basis!  I want you to find the blessings of OUR tradition not just today, but every day.


One way to do this is through our mouths and one is through our calendar.
Through our mouths, Jewish tradition has much to say about what goes in AND what comes out.  Some of you know the holiness of kashrut, of choosing to be conscious of every morsel that goes into your mouth, you may have discovered that making that choice supports the gratitude I mentioned previously.  However, do not let anyone tell you that what comes out of your mouth is any less important.  As the annexation debate rages just a few miles down the road, we must be cognizant of how we speak about our neighbors--both those who look like us and those who do not.  As Rabbi Sacks recently wrote:
I used to think that the most important line in the Bible was “Love your neighbour as yourself”. Then I realised that it is easy to love your neighbour because he or she is usually quite like yourself. What is hard is to love the stranger, one whose colour, culture or creed is different from yours. That is why the command, “Love the stranger because you were once strangers”, resonates so often throughout the Bible.
http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/sep/06/refugee-crisis-jonathan-sacks-humanitarian-generosity
How we speak about others can have beautiful and grave consequences.  When I hear that my words and actions have inspired someone to live and teach the blessings of Rosh Hashanah at their holiday meals, I am filled with pride and gratitude.  Yet when I am told that my words have hurt the ones I love, I am filled with shame and grief.  Words matter.  When we think first of what we are to say, when we consider what we eat, what goes in and what goes out, every meal and every conversation is an opportunity for holiness!


The Jewish calendar is ONE more way of finding the holiness every single day--not just today, but every day.  From Shabbat to festivals, our calendar conspires to create time for family, for friends, for the sacred.  While disconnecting from work on a regular basis may seem crazy, obligating ourselves to time together is life changing.  Pausing on a regular basis allows us perspective.  It gives us the gift of time.  It creates moments to look out over our gorgeous Hudson river, to see the leaves change, to sit by the pool while we still can.  Whether we pull out of the fine china or eat Evergreen takeout on paper plates, those family dinners can change the course of our lives.  In just a week or two we will celebrate Sukkot and Simchat Torah, building the Sukkah (or letting me bring it to you), we shake fruits and vegetables, reminding ourselves of our roots, reminding ourselves of our land and our dependence on the Holy One.  When those holidays are over, I look forward to studying with you some of the sources of Shabbat and thinking with you how we might re-imagine Shabbat practices today.  Would we disconnect completely or use technology to connect to far-flung family?  Are we still celebrating Shabbat if we use our microwaves to reheat food?  We can make observing the Sabbath more about saying yes than saying no?!  Friday nights we sing Lecha Dodi, a mystical poem striving to connect us with God.  One verse has always moved me. יָמִין וּשְׂמֹאל תִּפְרֽוֹצִי. וְאֶת־יי תַּעֲרִֽיצִי Break out of your confines to the left and right, praise God.  Spread the Shabbat to the left and to the right.  In today’s world this is true, Muslims and Christians have taken our Sabbath and brought it to the surrounding days.  What would the world look like if we could spread the joy, the peace of Shabbat to the rest of the week?  How would you look?  How would you feel?  In the year to come, I pray we can discover this joy, this holiness together!


This is the way we find connection.  This is how we solve the yearning in our souls.  This is how we find God in every moment in our lives--by looking.  As the Kotzker rebbe, Menachem Mendel of Kotzk, said: “Where is God found?  In the place where we let God in!”  Let God in by finding the holiness, the joy, the meaning in each day.  


As we continue our service for the day, let us all remember today and every day my favorite verse from Psalms:
כד  זֶה-הַיּוֹם, עָשָׂה ה";    נָגִילָה וְנִשְׂמְחָה בוֹ.
24 This is the day which the LORD hath made; we will rejoice and be glad in it.

Let every day be a day of rejoicing!