Tuesday, August 23, 2016

Happy Anniversary

Today marks the seventh anniversary of the wedding of myself and my wonderful wife, yet without discounting the day, I am struck that this Simchat Torah will mark a decade of having her in my life. Introduced (intentionally and subtly) by our dear friend Rabbi Eve, these years are like none I could have imagined.  Living in a beautiful place (five years in Newburgh!), creating a beautiful family, working to strengthen our faith and our heritage for the next generation are all goals I hoped to achieve and our present success is due to having a brilliant partner.  

Rabbinic work is extraordinary.  One ispresent with people at liminal moments, sacred moments, life-changing moments.  We are privileged to spend time with people at their most vulnerable and most inspired.  If we do our work well, we may truly change the course of lives, pushing people to discover the holy within.  This moving, sacred, holy work is life-changing for those who participate in it--but not everyone knows quite what they are getting into or how many long days and nights are involved!

Before we were engaged, I invited Rebecca’s parents to a meal at the Second Avenue Deli.  Over pastrami, I told them what they expected to hear--that I was head over heels in love with their daughter and hoped she would be my wife.  They said, “maybe you want to teach in a day school?  Are you sure a pulpit is the right place for you or Rebecca?”  Eight years ago, Rebecca was a little quieter than she is today.  New people and crowds were not her favorite place to be.  Yet she has thrived in the congregational world. She has stood by me through student pulpits, interviewing and building a spiritual home together.  She has taught and learned and been a part of so many sacred moments, too--without choosing to spend years in seminary!  Without her, I cannot imagine what my life would look like!  I know that I am so much better because of her.

Together we have celebrated and mourned and danced and cried.  Together we have loved.  On this seven/ten year anniversary, I am grateful for each day and look forward to a lifetime together.  Thank you always, my love.